What is the point of therapy?
It CAN help with your relationship to yourself and other people
Therapy can help you to gently get a new perspective on the relational patterns you have established in your life. Although they may have served you well in the past, perhaps you feel they are not helpful to you any longer. The more rigid and inflexible of these patterns are often learned early in life, before we can even speak and can sometimes make us feel that things are just 'going wrong' without ever really knowing why.
For example, you may keep choosing particular people as friends or partners that you know are not healthy but can't resist anyway. Or perhaps you are continually finding yourself in a job you don't like and can't stand the people that work there which makes you feel stressed, anxious or keeps you awake at night. Therapy can help you see without judgement why you find yourself in these situations, yet enables you to open up new possibilities for the future, with a heightened sense of curiosity and flexibility, making you feel more in control of and more empowered in your relationship to yourself and others.
How does therapy work though?
Therapy is a partnership
First of all it is important that we establish a sense of trust and safety together. Anxiety, depression and difficulties with relationships often arise from feeling supported or listened to and often when it was most needed. This is therefore of primary importance in therapy and establishing this rapport together can be a simple, yet highly effective antidote.
Through my own experience and also from wider research, it has been shown that it is often the relationship between the client and therapist that clients rate most highly, despite any particular method the therapist may use. That is why I believe it is so important that I first of all listen to very carefully with an open heart and mind to what you are telling me, without imposing my agenda or judgement.
No session will be the same, but it may consist of talking about what is happening for you, or you might combine this with expressive arts such as drawing, painting, movement or music. These non-verbal methods of expression are sometimes very useful in that they can help you to get in touch with the creative, imaginative parts of yourself that you may feel that you have lost touch with. It can also help you to calm feelings of anxiety, or safely express your anger and make sense of it. However you might find that talking things through is enough and this is what works best for you.
Some of the AREAS I work with:
- Anxiety and Stress
- Work based conflict
- Infidelity/ Affairs
- Low self-esteem
- Creative block
- Communication issues/ Assertiveness
- Problems with sleep
- Sexuality and intimacy issues
- Relationship issues
- Bereavement and loss
Although I welcome clients from all areas of life, with my personal experience as a musician, visual artist and Psychotherapist this provides me with a unique set of skills to work with people who are musicians, artists, or performers or from other creative fields. I also have a lot of experience previously in business in both the commercial and third sector which I feel is important in terms of understanding and relating to the everyday experiences and challenges of those working in the field.